Supporting Positive Behaviours
Conflict or disagreement is normal and often happens when children get together. However, hurtful words, gestures, or physical attack are unacceptable, ways to deal with conflict and disagreement at school. Horace Allen School is using a program called “Kelso’s Choices”. Our goal is to teach students several positive ways to deal with these difficult situations. To do this, we are teaching students who have small problems to try at least two of the strategies shown in the
Kelso’s Wheel . Students can use Kelso’s Choices anywhere-e.g. playground, hallway, classroom, lunchroom...even at home with siblings. We are also building positive character traits with lessons based on the Kelso Star. The idea behind the is part of the program is that each child is capable of being an ethical, moral, and successful citizen. Building Character with Kelso promotes positive behaviour rather than modifying and rewarding specific personality traits.
Through Kelso’s Choices and Kelso’s Star Traits, we are teaching children that they are “strong enough and smart enough” to deal with small problems. Kelso’s Choices can be used before asking for adult help. If a child is not feeling satisfied with the result, or the problem continues, a request for adult help is made. The adult will ask about the two strategies tried, and will get involved and help solve the problem by using our school discipline plan, if needed. Of course, the adult will immediately handle any serious conflicts that cause a child to feel threatened or frightened. We refer to these as ‘big problems’ . By using this plan, we believe that our students will develop effective problem-solving skills that they can use again and again. It will help them to deal with conflict in a positive manner and to make appropriate decisions. Knowing what to do will help students reduce the stress and number of conflicts they have at school and in their neighborhood.
We encourage you to become familiar with this program and use it in your home. By working
together, we can develop a healthy life skill for young people to use at home and at school. You can learn more information by visiting http://kelsoschoice.com/home/ .